I once read an article that said the key to a successful relationship was finding “your most compatible opposite.”
I look at my parents and I can see it: my father’s conservative and reserved, and my mother’s the free-spirited, life of the party. They’re like a real-life Dharma & Greg, polar opposites and yet still very much in love after nearly 40 years.
A friend of mine recently proposed to his girlfriend. When I asked why, he said, “I don’t know if she’s ‘the one,’ but she’s just like me; we’re exactly same person.” And, while I think there’s a certain level of narcissism in all of us who live our lives on twitter and tumblr, I’m not sure that a relationship should be based solely on sameness.
There are certain characteristics, both tangible and intangible, that I find appealing: some mimic my own and others are vastly different. And while it’s said that variety is the spice of life, I can’t help but notice how many old married couples look alike.